They seem so into you. But right when things start to get deeper, you start to feel the distance. You try to bring that closeness back, but it feels like you’re hitting a wall. Then, right when you’re ready to let go… they reappear like nothing happened. If this hot-and-cold relationship feels painfully familiar, you might be dating an avoidant partner. And if you keep ending up with emotionally unavailable partners, it’s not bad luck. It’s a pattern, and patterns can change. In this video, I sha[...]
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You know the feeling. You've been on a few dates with someone, and they've been good. The conversation flowed, you laughed, and you drove home thinking, okay, this could really be something. And then… nothing. It's not that anything went wrong or that it's over. It's just stuck. You're still texting and still seeing each other, but it isn't going anywhere. You don't know what to expect next or how to move things forward. Every time you get together, it's the same conversation all over again. "What have you bee[...]
I'll say this upfront because I think it matters: I am a HUGE advocate for online dating. I met my husband online. They work. I'm proof. But I also get the idea of online dating app fatigue. I hear you... swiping until your thumb goes numb doesn't feel like romance. But here's what I've learned coaching singles for years: online dating and in-person connection aren't competing strategies. They're teammates. Apps are great for expanding your pool of options. In-person interactions are where you build the muscl[...]
Back in the day before I became a happily married woman and a dating coach, like many of you out there, I fell for love bombing. Not because I was naive. Not because I didn’t know better. Because it worked on me the way it works on so many smart, self-aware, emotionally healthy singles. It felt like the chemistry I’d been waiting for. And it always, always fizzled around the three-month mark, right after they’d gotten their grip on me. That’s the part nobody tells you about love bombing. Whether the[...]