I’ve worked with singles all over the world and through my Conscious Dating Programs, I help singles get clear about Non-negotiables and discover the important role they play to find lasting love.
Like concrete for the foundation or a house or roots of a tree, having a partner who meets your Non-negotiables gives stability and structure to a relationship.
The reason is simple, Non-negotiables are key core values that you must have aligned with a partner and/or a relationship in order for that relationship to work. Most people have about 10 of them, and if even one of those 10 is not met, the relationship just will not work.
That is how powerful they are to finding relationship bliss. In my profession as a Relationship Coach, the singles I work with have shared with me all types of Non-negotiables, so I decided to create a list of the top common ones and share them with you.
1. Treats Me Like a Priority
There is no question that as human beings we have many things going on in our lives and it seems like you have to be a tightrope walker to balance all the things going on in your life.
Unfortunately, when it comes to successful relationships being treated like a priority, sits at the top of almost every client list. The reason is simple, if you’re not a priority in your partner’s life, then who is?
2. Family Oriented
Having single clients who have dreamed of having a family, yet have spent years with partners who did not want a family has always been somewhat surprising to me.
Still, many daters hope or think maybe their partner will change their mind or that maybe they don’t want a family as much as they thought.
Once this becomes a Non-negotiable, the clarity that comes with it is so liberating that wasting time with a partner who does not want the same things as you in terms of family, is almost impossible.
3. Financial Stability
Many of the singles I work with needed a little clarity on this one, because so many daters out there think it is a successful/rich partner they prefer.
In some cases the singles they dated were successful and rich, but managed their money poorly.
So when we dug a little deeper and made a break down to create their list, we actually found out success wasn’t the standard but instead financial stability was what they seek.
This may seem like an obvious one that should be easy to know, so many of my clients have a dating past riddled with partners who were clearly not in it for monogamy.
Sometimes they failed to see the warning signs for a cheater or player until it was too late. The great thing about learning your Non-negotiables is that you’ll know them so well, they rarely leave your mind.
And once clear, there are simple ways to test Non-negotiables against prospective daters to make sure you know who they are and what they are before it’s too late.
Again, seems like a no-brainer, right? Still, so many daters who value honesty rationalize away a little lie after little lie from someone they like, until eventually when the bigger ones arrive they don’t act on it.
When you are dating and honesty is one of your Non-negotiables the lies are so easy to spot that being repeatedly lied to in relationships becomes a thing of the past.
So if you need help gaining clarity about your true non-negotiables or how to express them while dating, I can help. Schedule a Free Relationship Readiness Review with me here.
Let’s connect and see where we can improve your approach to dating so that you can find the lasting love you desire.