The New Year is upon us so you know what that means. Time to make that New Year’s Resolution. And if you are single and yours involves making finding love a priority then I am here to help.
As a Master Certified Relationship Coach who has helped so many singles not only become better daters, but also marry their soulmate, I am here to tell you that you have what it takes to find it too.
But there are some steps you need to implement to find dating success. So here are the Top 5 ways to make your New Year’s Dating Resolution come true.
#1 – Set Realistic Goals
Did you know that approximately 80% of all New Year’s Resolutions are given up by the second week in February.
The high failure rate is pretty easy to understand, the resolution-er sets a goal, takes some steps to try to achieve it (or doesn’t try at all), gets discouraged, and gives up in less than 5 weeks.
Whether the resolution is losing weight or looking for a new career, without setting realistic goals, you are likely setting yourself up for disappointment and failure.
Dating New Year’s resolutions are no different. If you want to make this year your year to find that forever relationship, then you want to start the year off right by setting realistic dating goals.
Whether it is going on at least one date a month or trying a new single’s group every other month, keep your goals achievable for you and the life you live.
#2 – Starting Saying, “Yes”!
Many studies have shown that one of the biggest factors in getting people to like you (both in dating and outside of dating) is having a positive attitude.
Think about it, have you ever been on a date or with a friend and all they did was complain or make things more difficult than it had to be? That is because they did not say “Yes” enough.
They brought a negative attitude into your world. By coming into 2018 with a mindset that you are going to start saying “Yes” and bring a positive attitude to your dating life you will not only have a better chance of attracting that special someone, but almost certainly you will have more fun doing it.
#3 – At Least Once a Month, Step Into the ‘Discomfort Zone’
It’s so easy to get into a dating rut and because of that sometimes you must do things that you might not ordinarily want to do. But if you want to change your love life sometimes you have entered a place I like to call the ‘discomfort zone’.
This is a place where you feel a bit uneasy or nervous, but by being there it has the ability to make you grow as a dater and a person. It could be going on that first speed dating event or taking the unusual step of asking someone out you hit it off with it at a party.
It also could mean dating people whom you might otherwise not consider as part of your dating pool.
For example, you may say you want someone taller that 6’0″ so drop your limit to 5’9″ or you only want to date someone who is your age, so now consider someone who is 7-10 years older.
The bottom line is if you’re looking at your love life and not liking the results then it’s time to change things up to get the results you want and deserve.
#4- Learn to Become a Better Dater
In school they teach us English, they teach us math, even ultra-specific vocations like woodshop, but rarely, if ever, do we learn how to date and connect with other human beings.
The good news is there has never been a better time to get out there and learn how to become an expert dater. There are books, online programs and in person seminars right at your fingertips and knowledge is power here.
Being a good dater means you have a self-awareness and a skill set that matches those in of a great athlete or a chef in their disciplines.
#5 – Find an Accountability Partner
A big mistake many of us make when starting a New Year’s resolution is we go at it alone. Finding someone who is rooting for you and supporting you on your resolution’s journey makes it so much harder for you to give up when things get tough.
This person can be a fellow single who has the same dating goal as you, or a close friend or family member, or even a relationship coach like myself. If you’d like my help, schedule a Free Relationship Readiness Review with me here.
So it’s up to you to build your 2018’s resolution a support team with a simple goal of winning the dating championship by finding that person you want and deserve.